Looking After Yourself
Just when you feel you have no time to relax, know that this is the moment you most need to make time to relax.
- Matt Haig
It's difficult. The modern world is fast-paced, demanding, far too often unrelenting. Sometimes it just won't give you a break. That's when you know you have to give yourself one.
Enjoy that moment to yourself, that rest on a bench, that ten minutes with a book, that early night, that little treat.
Sometimes we need to be with, or around, others. Sometimes we just need to be alone. Both are essential to looking after yourself. Asking for help, needing a hand, is not only okay, it's brave and it's necessary. So is saying no, and making the decision to shut out toxicity and those who might foster and perpetuate it.
Finding something which excites you, enthuses you, energises you, is also a really great way to practise self-care. Be it working out or a sport, rambling in the woods and hills, or an artistic pursuit such as painting, writing or playing an instrument, spending time and effort on something you genuinely love is important.
It is easier said than done, though, especially when you have family and friends who depend on you. But there shouldn't be any guilt associated with taking care of yourself. If you can't help yourself, you won't be able to help anyone else. If your bucket isn't full, you won't be able to top up anyone else's. If you're frustrated, exhausted or angry, you aren't going to be able to treat others with care and kindness. You depend on you, too.
As adults, we often forget that we have to take care of ourselves. That duty of care shouldn't be neglected.
You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
- The Buddha